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Control emotions prior to property division in California divorce

Recognizing that a California marriage can not be saved and deciding to call it quits is likely to be an emotional experience for both spouses. This has been proven to be a rocky time that can either set an individual on the road to financial stability, or it can be the destruction of future financial stability. The ability to control emotions will typically determine which way an individual goes. It is quite natural to be emotional at this time and some marital experts advise that both spouses take their time to adjust to the idea of divorce before proceeding with property division.

One party may feel that he or she is responsible for the situation and this feeling of guilt may let him or her want to give most assets to the other spouse. Although this action may allow the person to feel better at that moment, it can be a detrimental move. Similarly, one spouse may be emotional enough to let the other party have everything, in order to get the divorce over and done with.

Couples may want to use all the time they need to accept the idea of divorce and use this time to organize all their financial, personal and estate affairs. If one spouse in inexperienced in handling financial matters, this may be an opportunity of empowerment and should be optimized. Until both parties have calmed down and accepted the inevitable, it may be wise to avoid signing any legal documents and making any financial decisions.

Once both spouses are calm and ready to proceed with property division, they may each wish to file for divorce. If the process seems overwhelming, they need not be intimidated because help is available to assist California couples in obtaining an outcome to suit both parties. Allowing themselves to go through the motions of acceptance before taking legal action may avoid costly disputes at a later stage.

Source:, "Three Steps To Stay Clear-Headed in a Divorce", Michelle Perry Higgins, April 16, 2014

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